9th grader dating a 7th grader
He told me there was no debating that logic and I got to go. LOL Cyberdating My oldest son is 12 and in 6th grade.
And then never again until I was just about to turn 16 and had my first serious boyfriend. Nothing unchaperoned until they're 15-ish and we'd have to get to know him first. I also don't mind the idea of a group if 13-14 year olds walking the fair together but I also remember the wacky stunts and cover-ups my friends and I pulled when we were that age. I'm discovering that "dating" is sometimes synonymous with texting and that's it. I think when it progresses to actually meeting out at a certain time and the possibility of physical contact - that's when it can be worrisome as a parent.
If the boy won't spend time with us, then he can't be alone with our daughter. Homeschool homies As homeschoolers, my kids are in a different social structure, so I suppose we'd just take it one day/one person at a time.
My son at 11 already has a very close girl friend (not girlfriend) but if that evolved, we'd just see how it went and make sure to be open with him and encourage him to do the same.
Still, if my daughter, as a 7th grader, asked this of me last year, the answer would have been, "No. " As a single parent, with no co-parenting assistance, all the decisions are mine. Therefore, as she grows up and continues to blossom, I will cherish the evenings when she curls up in my bed, laughs like a silly little girl and we say our prayers together.
Consequently, it's hard to play "good cop/bad cop" by myself. Then, I hand over the cash and lay down my restrictions. Knowing that I've raised a really strong, confident, smart young lady, I worry little that her 8th grade "firsts" will be any more than the innocent "firsts" that I experienced: Nevertheless, I'm freaked the freak out.
I don't think I have a certain age in mind for dating to be OK - I think every child is different. Define "girlfriend" True story - when my son was 11, he had a friend who had a girlfriend - one that they would go to each others houses & hang out in his bedroom alone, door open or shut :/ he started asking me if he could have a girlfriend.
My eldest daughter began 8th grade this week and I am already overwhelmed with the possibilities and realities that this year holds.
So we got a bunch of other couples together to go with us (movies) and I told my Dad it couldn't possibly be a date with that many people there and that it was instead a "gathering". I mean really, this girl you are thinking of is obviously your friend so what would making her your girlfriend change? " I told him that until he was mature enough to answer that question, the answer is NO ... He will be 16 in a couple of weeks, and not only was he able to hold that conversation about a year ago, but he is willing to talk now because he knows I'm open & interested. I get to hear (oh joy) about the girls and boys in attendance, the "flirting", the exchanges of Instagram addresses and who is dating whom. "God please take me now", is my prayer but I listen, bite my tongue and offer casual authoritarian commentary: "I hope there wasn't a lot of cursing. " Over a glass of wine, a girlfriend and I chatted about our "firsts". It's not to much of an age difference Of course it is. That's a little weird, but you're only two years younger, so why don't you wait a little while ? Some of you say its weird, but when one of them is 20 and one is 18, is THAT that weird? I mean, look at my parents, they're more than TEN years apart!it is ok if they are at least old in there grade it is ok if they are at least old in there grade Yes it is fine. Once you get older, age difference really doesn't matter.dropped off at a movie, then being picked up.