For an online dating site
We laughed, and then went on discussing our own dating disasters.
For the next week or so, I went about my business as usual, but this Emily Dickinson idea wouldn’t go away. It would be an interesting art project, if nothing else.
Early on, a guy asked for my real-world profile and I sent it to him.There were no boob-squeezing selfies or come-hither stares. So why was Emily Dickinson succeeding at online dating to a much higher degree than I ever had?It was obvious that she didn’t fit in with the cool kids. At first, I found it curious, but after a while, I realized that Emily’s experience was merely an extension of the Ok Cupid experience in general. When we create a profile, we’re projecting a certain type of image. Well, she was famous, for one thing, and dead for another. Men do tend to fetishize famous dead women, especially if the woman in question has a head full of neuroses. If most modern men met these women in real life, they would call them crazy, but somehow, in the safety of death, they become worthy.Did these men think the 19th-century photographs of Emily Dickinson I had posted were images of an actual living, breathing woman? Or were they just so desperate for sex or companionship that they emailed every profile they came across? They didn’t know my age, my weight, my gender, nothing.For all they knew, I could be an 80-year-old man or a group of thirteen-year-old girls or a really smart gorilla.